How we present ourselves is determined by how we perceive ourselves and how we recognise and manage our emotional range. We speak 16,000 words, on average, per day – imagine how many words pass through our mind in that same period of time. These words and thoughts lay the foundation of our habitual thought processes and emotional aptitude.
Each of us are uniquely individual and complex beings and we will all experience criticism, doubt and fear. In the workplace, that can mean we choose to ‘armour’ ourselves against internal conflict and self-criticism as well as criticism from or conflict with others. ‘Armour’ includes the thoughts, emotions and behaviours we use to protect ourselves when we aren’t willing or able to be vulnerable. (Brene Brown, Daring Greatly, 2015)
Living and working in a time of vast social platforms, fast-paced technology and constant demands on our time and energy leads to the temptation (for many of us) to adopt ‘quick fix’ or ‘social image consciousness’ techniques.
Wiremu Matthews has worked with many individuals and organisations to teach acknowledgement and acceptance of this natural biology, in that we all experience emotions of doubt, stress and frustration. Learning to manage these emotions and not get hooked on the ‘broken record’ of negativity represents the development of Emotional Agility (E.A.).
As we learn to accept that anxiety, anger and frustration are natural responses to anticipating and solving problems, we become aware that these emotions can be used to guide us through stress, learning, energy and production cycles. We can then understand how to tap into our vast emotional range to shape and support our desired results. This represents the successful application of Emotional Agility over ‘armour’.
Here are a few examples of how, by understanding and applying Emotional Agility in the workplace, you can address and overcome common workplace scenarios:
If you would like to understand more about the principles of Emotional Agility, then Wiremu Matthews is running a practical workshop to introduce the concepts of Emotional Agility on June 11th at the Chamber. For more details click here.